Dec 7, 2020Do you wish you had more deep and meaningful friendships?In her book Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, friendship expert Shasta Nelson says that when she gives talks, she’ll often ask anyone who feels lonely in the audience to raise their hands. No one raises their hand. Then, Nelson does something different. “How many people…Self Improvement3 min readSelf Improvement3 min read
Oct 24, 2019Here’s why you feel slightly anxious or tired all the time.I’m a coach, and I’ve found that so many people who work with me are low-level anxious or tired almost all the time. Here are six things that I’ve come to deeply believe: 1. The opposite of being busy or having “too much” to do isn’t having the “right amount”…Productivity4 min readProductivity4 min read
Aug 15, 2019Five actually useful ideas for how to find more friends as an adultRecently I wrote about friendship, loneliness, and why it’s not surprising that you might need a new friend or two. This week, I wanted to share five ideas about how to actually make those new friends, all from Shasta Nelson’s lovely book, Friendships Don’t Just Happen: The Guide to Creating…Friendship5 min readFriendship5 min read
Published inYes Yes Yes·Aug 4, 2019Something to keep in mind when you try to make new friendsI’ve had two big moves over the past few years — from New York to North Carolina, and then from North Carolina to California. Both times, after the initial exhilaration of a new home wore off, I looked around and realized I had very few, or no, friends where I…Friendship3 min readFriendship3 min read
Nov 6, 2018The annoying-but-effective way to use technology less and feel more calmHere’s a radical question for all of us: Do you need to feel more bored? So many of us are chronically busy or stressed. I started to notice that even though my life isn’t crazy-busy — which I’m grateful for — I didn’t have that open, relaxed, spacious feeling as…Life3 min readLife3 min read
Oct 15, 2018One small but radical way to spend less time online.It was 8 pm. I’d just gotten home from a walk, and planned to shower and make dinner. But first, I reached for my phone. What if you didn’t? It was a small, kind voice inside of me that asked the question. It wasn’t mean or accusatory. …Technology5 min readTechnology5 min read
Aug 1, 2018What to do when someone calls you “selfish.” (Or anything else.)You’re the most selfish person I’ve ever met. … … How did you feel when you read that? How would you feel if someone you cared about said that to you? Would you feel a clenching in your stomach? Would you think, Oh god, what did I do? I’m so sorry! Or…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Mar 2, 2017Before You Read Another Article about “Superfoods,” Read This.Most of us know as much as we need to about nutrition. Most of us know as much as we need to about portion sizes. If you’re frustrated with your eating or weight, it’s probably not because you “didn’t realize” that eating an entire pan of brownies wasn’t particularly healthy.* …Health2 min readHealth2 min read
Jan 30, 2017Ever feel like your desire for ice cream is endless? This is for you.But Katie, if I let myself eat whatever I want, I am going to eat cookie dough until I burst. I help people learn how to trust themselves around food, and this is easily one of the most common questions I hear. And I get it, I really do. Most…Food4 min readFood4 min read
Jun 11, 2015Restricting Calories Makes You Crazy (No, Really)Restricting Calories Makes You Crazy (No, Really) You know how as soon as you restrict your calories, all you want to do is eat a whole tray of warm chocolate chip cookies? It’s not just you. Let’s talk about a research study that shows the frightening effects of calorie deprivation. …5 min read5 min read
